The Courage To Confront Pain




The Sananda energies are sweeping through, churning each one of us evermore into dissolution, it's action to bringing forth mastery and the earnest surrender to truth, integrity, and love. This time of year invokes many wonders, but it also brings forth much pain.


What is pain? This seems such a senseless question, especially to those that may currently be experiencing a reality based on an injury, or even heartbreak. Pain itself is more than a physical sensory perception; it expands and encompasses the psyche and spiritual development. Pain is a messenger that is silently whispering (or fiercely shouting!) that something is truly out of balance. Simply put, pain is reflecting the energy that has been tilted in the mind, body, and spirit.


The Fear-Avoidance model is activated through the pain perception. There are two coping strategies that are used to avoid the pain. One is avoidance, the other is confrontation. Confrontation in this sense can lead one to identify, manage, and remove the root of their pain. The choice of avoidance allows one to deny, invalidate, and even reject the 'gifted' message that pain is delivering. Pain is an inevitable part of life that we will all meet, whether it is physical, emotional, mental, or spiritual. It is our relationship to it - our ability to listen to and understand it - that either keeps us stalled, or frees us from its grasp.


If we break pain away from its archetypal status we can then examine the background programs of anxiety and worry. As we lay one burden down another emerges. What was the pain saying before the emergence of anxiety and worry? Pain's somber moans were conveying all this time that the root is simply the fear of suffering.


Suffering houses vast perceptions. It is our attachment to the perceived reality of matter that produces suffering. As we choose the perception of suffering, we are yet again presented with the Fear-Avoidance model. Do we confront and remove our suffering, or do we choose to deny, avoid, and even wallow in this chosen circumstance? Suffering is the result of inventions of our own minds, and our inability to deal with our thoughts and emotions.





The world of matter is built and enhanced through perception. To remove or greatly reduce the fear of suffering we must change our perception. A personal example of this shift occurred when my Divine Self asked me to leave a dream job and move into a space of surrender. The thought of this immediately invoked the fear of suffering. My emotions and thoughts went directly to, "How will I survive? How will I pay bills? What do I do next? What will those that helped me get here think?"


Since that first dive, Great Spirit has asked me to dive again, again, and yet again. Can you surrender to the higher will, knowing all is held? This is the mastery, to remove all the fear that keeps us in separation. We drive the fear out each time we change our perception, expanding consciousness just a bit more.


To address pain and all the perceived fear of suffering takes tremendous courage. Follow your convictions! Go past the senses and emotional attachment, for what awaits you is beyond truth.


                    Fear and courage are brothers. - Proverb





Tools to alter perceived reality:




1) Get grounded! Commune with nature, be here and now.

2) Take a step back and become the detached witness (in your mind's eye, see yourself above your current self and situation, see and feel the situation as not bad or good, but neutral)

3) Drop into your heart. Your heart knows the way...listen to it.

4) Follow through. Take a new course of action and make it happen. Fear and memory are related, so create a new memory!


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